Just Walk Away, but Walk Away with Awareness

“Anonymous” writes:

To have peace in my life, there are people I need to remove from my circle of friends. I find these people are good people, but, I get negative feelings and very annoyed to be around them. They are people who try to manipulate everyone around them to control situations to their satisfaction. I have got so I am amazed at some people and just want to tell them they are crazy but I think best just to walk away.

Vedam:

          This is a very common theme with most people. It also seems that when you begin to make ‘life affirming changes’ in your life, there appears to be an upheaval of friends and acquaintances. It is very natural for this to happen and I will explain why, but do not make a ‘changing of the guards’ a problem.

          First of all, the mind is based in a power and control game and that can be expressed in a lot of different ways. Some do it with manipulation, others do it with being passive, or domineering, or ‘poor pitiful me.’ Honestly, we do not have ANY control over what someone else does (we all have free will), but we can answer the call of our moment in relation to those situations.

          Secondly, it helps to look at it from the perspective of energetics. Everything is energy. No energy is better than another; they each serve their purpose, but some energy clashes with others. Even the clash, from the perspective of energetics, is not a problem, it just is! They just do not and cannot mix. AND, energy is constantly changing.

          Third, life is change. It is always going to change, and if this is part of the change, than let it be! Resistance to change is only going to create suffering, whereas accepting the change allows for peace.

Now, let’s look at it from a personal place. We are always going to energetically attract people in our lives; some for a lifetime, a season, etc. We attract people into our life to remind us of something, to show us something, to help us with something, etc. Sometimes it is for obvious reasons and many times it is very obscure. Sometimes we realize what that purpose is and other times we do not. That attraction process brings people into our lives and it also removes people from our lives.

Also, from a personal perspective, as we change, grow, and evolve, so will our circle of friends and acquaintances. That is extremely normal and natural. It is also normal and natural for change to affect family dynamics.

From my perspective, what is most important is our response to the change. Allow me to elaborate…

We have to remember to watch our judgment. Your judgment of someone for judging the change in you is still judgment. Your judgment of someone for being different than you is no different than their judgment of your differences. Begin to realize that you can make choices without adding judgment to the mix. Make a choice to walk away, if that is what you truly want. Make a choice not to be manipulated. Make a choice to really pay attention to your feelings, and then honor those feelings. But also begin to realize that it is not necessarily the person that is making you feel that way; it is ultimately your thoughts about that person that is creating how you are feeling.

So, yes, there is a constant coming and going. So walk away, but walk away with Awareness.

You can find more about Awareness and what that means in the article, “What is Universal Consciousness and Awareness?”

Much peace, love, life, and laughter,

Vedam

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