Receiving “The Enlightened You” question about relationships, I decided that I would spend this week talking about relationships; specifically ‘love relationships’.
Relationships can be the most amazing thing or they can be the most tedious thing you will ever go through in your lifetime. When they are going great it is because the two of you are clicking and jiving together like a well oiled machine. The mind is getting what it is wanting, the two of you seem to be on the same page, the communication is flowing (and that is all relative to each couple), and the sex life…
But as soon as the tides change the relationship begins to hit some speed bumps. Some are bumpier than others, this seems to phase in and out, and then some turn to arguing, fighting, sometimes violence and abuse, and others head to divorce court.
Some make it through, and some don’t. Some choose to stick it out, knowing that they are just going through a rough time, but the fluctuations remain the same. Then there are some that make it through the rough times, and it even gets better over time. Those are the ones that I want to talk about today…
There are some common threads with those types of couples. They have stopped taking stuff so seriously, they actually enjoy each other’s company and they support each other, they laugh together, they have fun together, and there are some common goals.
But did you know it could even get better? A couple that has evolved into some degree of Self Awareness begins to move even further away from the mind stuff and begins to live from a heart space. I have also found that a couple that lives from a heart space naturally seem to move into further depths of Awareness; they live more in the Now, and there is a Oneness between them.
What is this and why is this? You see, the mind is always the birthplace for all of our problems, and a person that does not have some sort of Self Awareness engages in whatever the mind is saying to them about any given situation. The mind is saying that the situation is serious, there is some sort of ‘time factor’ involved, and the other person is the reason why this problem exists in the first place. However, a couple that has moved into some sort of Self Awareness sees the mind, and its antics. A Self Aware couple does not get into labeling and judging. A Self Aware couple shares about the past but does not allow the past to saturate the present moment. A Self Aware couple dreams and builds for tomorrow; meanwhile living in the present moment, knowing that this moment is too precious to miss. And, when a situation arises there is open, honesty, and authentic communication around whatever is happening. A Self Aware couple listens to each other, they care what the other has to say. A Self Aware couple lives beyond the mind and offer themselves to the other; they serve each other!
If you are in a relationship and it is not what I have described above; it is never too late. You can start NOW! It doesn’t matter if your partner is on board or not. Just like the fact that unconsciousness breeds more unconsciousness; consciousness breeds more consciousness. You are worth it as an individual and if you truly believe that your relationship is worth it, then go for it! Yes, it may be uncomfortable at times, but so is living without it!
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