Authenticity: Being Authentic To Each Moment

I received an email yesterday from someone who was elaborating on what was wrong in her life and why it was wrong. I decided to address my thoughts around that email here for you because I thought it may be supportive for many.

There is a vast difference in having a bad day and venting about it, compared to being in your head about the bad day and then elaborating on the story from the past that supports the present story about the bad day, and continuing to maintain and sustain that story in the future. Allow me to explain…

Life evolves, turns, and changes, and sometimes in those changes, things happen that we do not like and do not enjoy; basically they suck. Those days are going to happen; they are inevitably going to happen from time to time, but how you handle them in the present time can change your life. I have often written and/or talked about the difference between being child-like and childish, and once again, I would like to use that as an example.

When a small child is experiencing a rough spot, a situation that they are not happy about, they let you know it! They scream, they holler, they may even throw a fit. They are authentic in the moment and anyone they come in contact with knows they are not happy in the moment as well. However, when the moment has changed, the child changes with the moment. There is no carry over. Yes, it may take a few moments to allow the energy that has built up inside of them to move through, but when that has happened, the child is as new as it was with the previous moments.

If that same scenario were to take place with an adult, things would often look very different. You see, an adult has a whole collection of stored tapes in the mind of past events (that they have not let go of), and those tapes get accessed during the present situation. The present situation now becomes part of the old story, and it may also begin to build a new chapter in that same story, to keep it alive in the future. Yes, the adult may even scream, holler, or throw a fit, but it is done quite differently that the child that is doing the same thing. The adult is not going to be authentic with their fit. They may hold back because they don’t think it is appropriate, or they may go ballistic because of the energy that has built up over the years; either way, it is not authentic to the present moment, and that moment alone!

When something is not going your way, whether you are a child or an adult, the mind is getting something that it does NOT want or it is NOT getting something that it does want; in either person, the mind is not happy! But the child is authentic to the moment, and when the moment has changed, the child changes with it. There is no maintaining or sustaining the old stories, nor it is holding onto it to keep the story alive in the future. I have used this analogy for years now, but I think the reason why it doesn’t truly sink in is because very few adults know what it means to be authentic. That quality has been over-ridden by the conditionings of that person. Authenticity is over-ridden with ‘appropriateness’ or passive aggressiveness or manipulation.

Today, I challenge you to be authentic to each and every moment. I challenge you to be in the moment and when the moment changes, be total in that moment as well.

many blessings and namaste…

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